Contrast is necessary to know what happiness is, to know what joy is. Yet we are to put ourselves in a place of our desires and imagine we are there, living it with the contrast so far in the distance/past that it becomes a spec in the cosmos of our experiences. Even though the contrast was so necessary, it should be learned from, or thrown out if it doesnt serve you. Like that old security blanket people carry around. Wow, I really understand now.